Deep Questions to ask your girlfriend- Some guys might just ask their girlfriend what’s wrong when she seems upset. Some guys will play video games with her to try and cheer her up. But if you want to go above and beyond, here are 130 questions that will help you learn more about your girlfriend so the two of you can bond together! These questions range from random facts about your girlfriend to fun activities that you can do together. You’re going to have a lot of fun learning these things, as well as getting closer with your significant other!

Why Should You Ask Your Girlfriend Questions?

“Have you ever had that moment when you’re on your phone scrolling through social media and then suddenly thought ‘I wonder what my girlfriend is doing right now?’ Don’t worry, it’s perfectly normal if this has happened to you. Then again, there are certain things that guys don’t know about their girlfriends. If they knew these things, the relationship probably would’ve lasted longer.”

“Whether you’ve been together for a month or you’re now starting the relationship, there are things that your girlfriend wants you to know about her. You want to put in effort into this relationship because not only do you love your girlfriend but she also loves you back. Although it’s easy to be lazy and ignore these questions, finding out more about her will surely help your relationship grow. Who knows? Maybe you two will end up happily married and spending the rest of your lives together. That being said, you shouldn’t always be scared of what she might say because you are with her for a reason.”

Deep Questions To Ask Your Girlfriend That Will Strengthen Your Bond

“You’re spending time with your girlfriend and wondering what to ask to initiate the conversation. You want to impress her, but you don’t want the conversation to be dull. Rather than going for a safe, generic question like “what’s your favorite color,” try out a few of these 90 questions that will help you bond with your girlfriend.”

1. “If you knew I was coming to see you, what would you do?”

2. “What’s the stupidest thing you’ve ever done?”

3. “Who’s your best friend and why?”

4. “Tell me something that makes me happy every time you say it (i.e.: “I love you”).”

5. “Whose life would make a good movie? Why?”

6. “What book are you reading now/have read recently that moved you, or that you’d like to see made into a movie? Why do these characters/storyline need to be seen on the big screen?”

7. “If we were stranded on an island and you could only bring three things, what would it be?”

8. “Do you believe in ghosts or the paranormal? What’s your favorite ghost story?”

9. “If you could ask me any question, what would it be?”

10. “Did you ever want to be anything other than an… ? Why didn’t you go for that career path instead of this one/instead of working at the company where you are now?”

11. “What do you want to achieve by 30? 40? 50?”

12. “If you could visit anywhere in the world for one month, where would it be and why?”

13. “If we had a theme song, what would it be?”

14. “What’s the best piece of advice someone has ever given to you? Do you still take that advice now?”

15. “Are there any pictures on Facebook (or elsewhere) that make you look like a “total dork”? Were they taken recently or several years ago?”

16. “What was your favorite subject in school and why?”

17. “If I asked your friends what 3 adjectives describe you, what do you think they’d say? Why? How accurate/inaccurate do you think these descriptions would be?”

18. “If you saw me crying on the street, what would you do?”

19. “What’s your favorite smell?”

20. “When was the last time you went to an amusement park? What was your favorite ride?”

21. “If I gave you 1 million dollars, but told you that 1 of your fingers had to go with it (which finger), what one would it be and why?”

22. “If there were three things you could change about yourself, what would they be?”

23. “If we could switch lives for a day/weekend/month/year, who would you want me to be for that period of time and why? How would our lives be different if we switched roles?”

24. “If you could choose between becoming an internet/social media sensation or winning America’s Next Top Model/The Bachelor, which would you pick and why?”

25. “If you were cast away on a deserted island for 6 months, what three movies would make the cut to be included in your monthly movie ration? Why those particular movies?”

26. “What’s your favorite book series? Who are your favorite characters from that series? Which do you think has better character development: books or TV shows?”

27. “If you could have dinner with any person who has ever lived (dead or alive) who would it be and why?”

28. “If I gave you $1,000 today, what would you spend it on? How would it change your life?”

29. “If you could go out to dinner with one fictional character, who would you choose and why? What would you eat?”

30. “What’s the most stereotypical thing about your personality/interests?”

31. “If someone gave you the chance to see the movie of your life, what are 3 key scenes that’d be in it? Why are they important to include in this hypothetical film of yours?”

32. “If you had a child with me today, what would their middle name be? Why did you decide on that name specifically?”

33. “Are there any celebrities out there that make you feel insecure or self-conscious about yourself? How come?”

34. “What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received? From whom?”

35. “What do you think makes a good friend?”

36. “What was the last thing that made you cry? Why did it make you cry?”

37. “If we were to take a vacation together in the next 2 weeks, where would it be and why?”

38. “Would there ever come a time in your life when money wouldn’t matter to you anymore? How have/would that change your life?”

39. “What TV show deserves its own spinoff series? Which characters from which shows would star in this new spin-off?”

40. “What’s the craziest lie that I’ve ever said to you or about myself? Why’d you believe it? Why did you think I was lying?”

41. “What challenge are you afraid to tackle in your life right now? How would conquering that challenge make your life better?”

42. “If you could bring back one extinct animal, what would it be and why?”

43. “I’d like to know everything about the first time we met.”

44. “What is the best/worst thing about our relationship right now? Can you give me 3 examples of each?”

45. “Who do you lose contact with after a breakup and why do they cease all communication with you (and how does this effect your relationships with them later on)?”

46. “Do we lose contact with anyone from our past that we shouldn’t have ceased all communication with? Why did it happen?”

47. “What’s the last book you read for fun? Would you recommend it to me, and why or why not?”

48. “If you were a type of alcohol/drink, what type of alcoholic drink would you be and why?”

49. “Do we have any friends in common besides each other? How come? When was the last time you saw/spoke to this friend(s) in question?”

50. “If you got promoted at work tomorrow, how would your life change (for both better and worse)? Describe these changes.”

51. “What are your top three pet peeves about me? Are there any that you didn’t expect to be on there? What aren’t pet peeves but annoy you greatly?”

52. “If we were to take a road trip together, where would we go and why? How long would we stay at each place? What kind of activities would we do during our time there?”

53. “Are there any events or memories from your childhood that stand out in your mind as defining moments? Why those particular moments?”

54. “Who have been the most influential people in your life so far and why?”

55. “What is one skill/talent/accomplishment that I don’t have that you wish I did?”

56. “If you could give me anything for my birthday/Christmas/Valentines, what would it be and why?”

57. “Do you think we’ll ever get married? Why or why not?”

58. “What’s the best story you’ve ever heard about someone our age? Were they in this situation too?”

59. “How many hours of sleep do you need daily for your highest level of functioning to take place?”

60. “What is the scariest thing that has happened to us since we started dating (if anything)? Do I know about it? Why did this happen and how’d we get through it?”

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61. “If you were on death row, what would your final meal be? Why that one in particular?”

62. “What’s the most frustrating thing about me? How do you think I can fix it?”

63. “What is something that I’ve done for you recently that really made a difference in your life?”

64. “When was the last time we didn’t speak to each other and why did it happen (if anything)? Are there any unresolved issues between us? What are they?”

65. “Who has been the best parent of our relationship so far and how did they display their love for us? Can we emulate them in our lives together?”

66. “Are there any songs still left over from when we were dating that we should delete or archive on our playlists?”

67. “What type of music do you like the most and how has it influenced your life? Can you recommend any artists to me?”

68. “Who was your favorite teacher in high school and what made them so special?”

69. “What is the biggest lie I’ve ever told you about myself (or us together)? How did that situation make you feel?”

70. “What’s my best physical attribute? What about it do you love?”

71. “How would you describe me as a father to our future kids?”

72. “What’s your favorite memory from dating? Why that specific one?”

73. “What physical feature of mine do you love the most and why?”

74. “If I could do anything for you, what would it be and why would it bring so much joy to your life?”  

75. “Is there something else I can do to improve myself or my behavior at home? Does any of this trigger an insecurity of yours within me?”

76. “If we split up permanently, what would be the reasons behind the break-up (and how likely are they to happen)?”

77. “What are the things that I do for you on a regular basis that make your life easier/better?”

78. “What characteristic of mine is most likely to be seen as endearing by others? Why do you think it garners that sort of response from people?”

79. “If you could describe me in only three words, what would they be and why? Do these three words encompass all of my personality traits?”

80. “Is there something I did within the first few weeks or months after we started dating that made you absolutely adore me? If so, what was it and how’d it happen?”

81. “What’s one financial goal/aspiration that both of us share? How can we work together to accomplish this goal?”

82. “What are three of my most redeeming qualities?”

83. “What is something I did recently that really touched you in a profound way? How can I keep doing this for you? “

84. “If we had only two more months left on earth, how would we want to spend that time together? Are there any unresolved issues between us that need to be discussed before our time expires?  “

85. “If you were the one who was about to die, what would your last wish be?”

86. “What is something about me that makes your eyes light up?”

87. “How can I do better at helping you feel safe and secure in our relationship? What has helped so far, and what hasn’t worked at all?”

88. “What are all of the memories you have of us together in the beginning? Why are these specific instances significant to you in your memory bank?” 

89. “Who was one of your favorite teachers in school and why were they unique? What did they do that no other teacher did for you?”

90. “If my friends said they would give you a positive reference on me, what would they say about me, specifically?”

91. “What are some rules or guidelines we should make to follow to ensure our relationship flourishes? What are some rules we should never break, no matter what?”

92. “What’s one of the best gifts you’ve ever received and why did that specific gift mean so much to you?” 

93. “If I could give you a present for your birthday or anniversary, what would it be and why is that present significant to both of us?”

94. “How can I contribute more to making this world a better place? Should I volunteer in my free time? How can I do what’s right in my everyday life?”

95. “Do any bad habits/patterns exist in me that you want me to fix or control? so, how will these characteristics impact my life and others around me?”

96. “Is there anything I do that bothers you, even if it’s something small? How can I fix this?”

97. “What are the five best choices I’ve made in our relationship (so far)? Why are these choices significant to you?” 

98. “What quality about me makes you the happiest to be my girlfriend/boyfriend? Are there any other qualities about me that make me unique? If so, what are they and how do they circulate around my personality?”

99. “What is one of your most cherished memories from a vacation with friends or family? What does this memory say about who you are as a person?”

100. “Do you have any noticeable body language or facial expressions that show when you’re either happy, sad, or angry? What are they, and how can I help you control these signs?”

101. “If there were any things that you feel like you could’ve done differently in your life thus far (regardless of whether or not it’s related to our relationship), what would they be?” 

102. “If we were in another country together on vacation for two weeks, which two weeks throughout the year do you think would work out best with our schedules at home so we can plan this trip? Why is traveling during this particular time frame optimal for us?”

103. “If I dropped everything I was doing today and went on a road trip across America just because I wanted to see all of the beautiful scenery it has to offer, where would you want me to stop and visit with you specifically? What is so significant about this location and why was it meaningful for both of us?”

104. “If we were to create a bucket list together, what would be on there? Why do we want to accomplish these specific tasks together in our lives?”

105. “Is there an event in your childhood that made such a strong impression upon you that the moment itself is memorable even today? What happened during this experience and how did your life change after that point?”

106. “What are three things I can do to make sure I’m not forgetting anything when it comes time for us to pack up and move (or travel) across the country (or out of state)? What are the most essential items we would need to pack?”   

107. “Is there anything I can do right now to make our future together happier and more fulfilling? If so, how can I improve myself and make you proud of me for who I am as a person?”  

108. “Is there anyone in your life who always tries to make you feel like they’re better than everyone else? How does this impact your thoughts about yourself? How does this affect my relationship with that person or persons?”

109. “Is there an activity that is meaningful to both of us as a couple?”  

110. “If we were looking back on our lives thirty years from today, what would be a few of our most cherished memories from those years? If we were to write a book together about everything we’ve been through, what parts would the readers find most important?”  

111. “If you could create one painting that symbolizes every aspect of our relationship as two individuals, what would it look like and how can I help you realize this goal?” 

112. “If there was anything that could make your life easier or more fulfilling, what would that item be and how would it change your day-to-day life?”

113. “What is something I do on a daily basis that impacts you so positively about my character? What kinds of things do I say or do throughout the day that makes you proud to be with me as a partner?”  

114. “What can I do to better myself as a person? Is there anything you wish I would stop doing, and why? If so, what is it about those actions that bother you?”

115. “Is there a significant change in our relationship that could make us happier or more connected as a couple? If so, what is this change and how would it improve the quality of our partnership together?”  

116. “If we were going away on vacation for two weeks down south during December/January, where would we want to go and why?”   

117. “What was your favorite memory from your high school prom night (or if you didn’t go to prom, what memory did you have of that special night of your youth)? How did this event impact who you are today and how would you like to recreate it in the future with me?”  

118. “Is there anything else I could do for you tomorrow/this week that would make your life easier or more joyful? If so, please tell me about it.” 

119. “Is there a specific reason why we were drawn together as two people during this time in our lives? Does one of us need something from the other that can help us improve our lives? What is this item?”

120. “If we were watching television together at home on Sunday evening, what show would be on at exactly 8PM? Would we be laughing or crying watching this episode of our favorite program?”   

121. “Is there anyone you know that always makes you feel inadequate and small when they speak? How do the things they say make you feel and how do they affect me and my relationship with them?”  

122. “Where we would want to go on a romantic getaway weekend during early spring, and what must we see or do while driving there?”  

123. “Is there something I could add to our relationship that would make us stronger together as a couple? If so, what is it and why does this new addition matter?”

124. “What is your favorite aspect of my character? What can I do on a regular basis to help express this one quality of yours that makes you proud and happy?”  

125. “What is the most rewarding part about being in a romantic partnership with me? If we could erase your negative memories and experiences from the past, what would remain true and how did I help you through it?” 

126. “Is there something important you want to tell me but feel uncomfortable doing so? If you had three minutes to tell me something before we went out together tonight, what would it be about and why can’t you talk about it right now?” 

127. “Is there anything that I could do that would make your life easier or more joyful during our time? If so, what is it and how can I help you with this?”

128. “What was the funniest thing that happened to us together last week? How did we react to this humorous event and why would we want to reenact this memory sometime in the future?”  

129. “If you could modify your life and all of our experiences together during our time on earth, would there be anything important about yourself or us as a couple that you’d like to change? What is it and how does it impact your day-to-day life?”

130. “If I suddenly had $5 million cash in my bank account, what experience would we do together that we couldn’t afford before? Where would we go and what would we do if money wasn’t an issue?”  

Conclusion

You may be wondering what to do on your next date with your girlfriend. While you could ask her the same boring questions she’s heard before, there are some creative and engaging question prompts that can help break out of a rut. We hope you enjoy these suggestions for getting to know your partner better!

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